After speaking with a number of formerly single gay men who are now happily partnered, I will now reveal seven places to find your next boyfriend that are not a bar.

What follows are seven suggestions for places for gay men to meet a potential boyfriend that do not include a bar or nightclub.

You'll find suggestions you've heard before, some of that are unconventional, and others that may even be silly.

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I will add that this list is by no means exhaustive—please feel free to add ideas in the comment section at the end of this article. Others that are not as well known but nonetheless effective include the apps VGL Gay, Mister, and Tinder.

You have tried everything else–so what else do you have to lose? Some of these are free while others cost a small amount (or charge a nominal fee for premium services).

The great thing about apps and websites is that most all of them nowadays allow the user to input certain search criteria or filter out folks based on user preferences.

You are a gay man who has been single far too long.

You are good looking and smart, have a great set of friends, and take care of yourself: A “real catch,” you tell your buds.

But something deep inside is telling you that the way you have been going about finding a man isn’t working.

As you check yourself in the mirror before getting ready to hit the bars again, you think, Seriously, being a gay man and trying to find someone to date is a real chore.

There are tons of hurdles to overcome that can make it feel like the deck is stacked against us.

One major barrier can be figuring out to meet someone.

While bars can be a fun place to hang out with our friends, they are not always conducive to romantic connections.

And let's face it—as time goes on, the inability to meet a quality person can take its toll on our confidence.