In a new series of articles, black women living outside of Europe share their views from the other side.In our third article, Betty Byte (not her real name) spells out why she is determined to live in Europe.A benediction that was given to me a long ago from a beautiful, elegant black female co-worker of mine at my first job post college.

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My lovely friend is a jazz singer when she wasn’t working in the states as an office manager.

She was married to a French West African man and had lived in Paris for three years.

She told me this as we sat together sipping our lattes in Starbucks.

I smiled and told her that I knew what she was talking about and how I had always planned to go to Europe with friends, but it never manifested.

Years later after Starbuck’s cafe chat, I sat alone struggling with rampant dating dry spells.

I thought, what in the hell could I do to change this man less void I was trapped in?!

I had done every damn thing in the book to find a mate.

I had put up countless unanswered web ads (hello Ok Stupid!

), went to Meet Ups, worked out like a demon, upgraded my appearance, signed up for speed dating parties, met with expensive dating coaches and memorized all current dating books.