Dating with a mastectomy
There is no “right way” to approach mastectomy and reconstruction (or lack of it).
Because the choice to reconstruct or not is very personal, you need a surgeon who listens to you and explains things in ways you can understand.
It’s also important that you know all of your reconstructive options, especially if those initially presented to you aren’t appealing.
Studies from the American Society of Plastic Surgeons have found that more than 70% of women aren’t fully informed about their reconstructive options before mastectomy.
While most women choose to have some type of reconstruction, some women don’t want to have additional surgery.
Some also don’t want to deal with special bras, magnets, or adhesive patches that hold a prosthesis in place.
They choose no reconstruction and don’t wear a breast form most of the time.Many women and doctors call this “going flat” or “living flat.” If you've had one breast removed and feel self-conscious about looking lopsided, try going without a breast form at home.Then try running an errand or going out for coffee without your prosthesis.You’ll probably find that people don’t notice the difference, or if they do, it’s not a big deal.While there are no official numbers, many breast surgeons report that about 20% of their patients choose no reconstruction.Women who choose not to reconstruct may do so for a number of reasons, including: The decision to reconstruct or not is very personal.